Saturday, May 25, 2019

adventures in caregiving

Today found me sitting with a client at a rehab facility.  I'll spare the details because of privacy but I've gotta tell you it takes a special breed to do that kind of work day in and day out.  As with all medical facilities it is fast paced, understaffed and you never know what's going to happen next.  Cheers to all y'all, especially Angie Hale.  

Yesterday while Lauren and I were trying to get screaming little Reaves to sleep I decided to try singing to her.  You know, calm the savage beast and all.  I started with You are my Sunshine, followed by Amazing Grace.  It worked for about three minutes but after that it was on like donkey kong again.  She loves music and loves to dance especially when you shake your bootie along with her. I remember my old friend Iris telling me that she recognized the same look in little Lauren's eyes that her son had.  And Reaves has that same look.  A mix between pure angelic joy and trouble waiting to happen.

I found it ironic to be sitting in a nursing home re-reading Ira Byock's book Dying Well.  This man was hospice before it was cool as in Missoula Demonstration Project.  He expertly shares cases of all the different issues involved in death with an emphasis on family support.  It's not just the dying patient who is suffering except in rare cases.  He focuses on dignity and honor.  Various ways to intertwine the philosophy through conversations where he gives people options are way cool.  The one guy I read about today was unable to eat without choking due to ALS.  Eating was an ordeal for him because he couldn't swallow without choking and that was his biggest fear.  Dr Byock asked him why he kept eating if it was an unpleasant experience which led to not eating as an option or tube feeding to prolong life. And then taking away fluids.

All of these are discussions that occur simultaneously when someone knows they are dying.  To me, the most important thing is to mend relationships and share the love before it's too late.  Assisted suicide aka euthanasia is available  in certain states that allow it and I respect that.  But still?  I think most of the regrets and joys should be tended to.  

Yes I am eat up with the hospice philosophy because I've been a healthcare provider for 40 plus years and people need help navigating the system.  My friend Risible Girl volunteered with a hospice group in her area and loved it.  People need the active support approaching the end but after as well.  That is what expressing grief and releasing anger does to free a wounded soul.

Peace out ~

Friday, May 24, 2019

hell on wheels

Reaves and I actually read a couple of books this morning and played.  There were people in and out all day so she didn't get down for her nap on time thus she turned into a drama queen refusing to lay down or take a bottle.  There had been older girls around and they just love playing chase with her which got her wired to the max.  By the time I got back to the 'burg, Lauren sent me a picture of her sleeping soundly.  I knew she would give it up once we all cleared out.  One brave neighbor pulled all the poison ivy out of the tree right in front of Lauren's door.  Thank you dear!

Traffic was light considering it's the beginning of a holiday weekend.  That had kinda' sorta' slipped my mind until yesterday.  Time flies!  No festivities planned here.  Just another day in paradise.  

I spoke yesterday about the tragedy that has affected many in our community.  Landon was killed in a car accident earlier in the week and it has hit a lot of us hard.  Both of his parents and his grandmother are former co-workers of mine and my heart bleeds for them.  It was a terrible freakish accident.  I cannot imagine the grief.

Of all things to lose, the latest is my hairbrush.  It's somewhere in this house unless Ellie scooped it up and ran with it.  Luckily I have a very low maintenance cut.  

Y'all grill to your heart's content and bring me a plate.

Thursday, May 23, 2019


Once again our community has been hit with a terrible tragedy.  The child of two of my former co-workers was killed in a car accident.  His grandma is also a friend and we worked together for a long time.  There are no words to bring comfort to this family in their time of tragic loss.  Prayers are going up by the minute.  

ATT guy showed up and got me going again but there's going to have to be a whole new line laid in the near future.  As it turns out he is the son of my neighbors with the front yard cemetery where I will be buried.  Small world.  The road crew is busy busy busy and it's hot as hades.  I ventured out for a few errands and stopped by The Mill for some Roy Boy's BBQ.  Delicious!  I got the Piggyback which is a sandwich topped with bacon, cheese and sauce.  They will be at The Mill every Thursday.  Go check 'em out!

It makes me happy to see so many food trucks around because I like to support small businesses.  

Y'all try to stay cool.  It's a scorcher out there!

Wednesday, May 22, 2019


I had a busy day, in a very good way.  I got some exercise, made a commitment to keep doing it and went to eat Mexicans for lunch.  I'll be missing Friday due to a date with my girls but there's always next week.  

I went out toward Roellen to Keith and Vicki's to borrow a sander and ended up spending porch time with both of them plus Paislee.  Lord, the tales we could tell on that porch, most of them on ourselves.  

I found a special delivery on my porch when I got home.  One of the dogs ate my first Rivergator poster after it fell out of the frame.  I asked John Ruskey of Quapaw Canoe to hook me up with another one so now I have both the north AND south versions.  Plus a very cool smaller one.  It was hard to believe that it's been ten years since I bought that original print.  

I just love river people, always have.  The ones I admire a lot are the ones who take the time to make a difference in the trash and debris.  Like tires.  Who the hell throws a tire in a river????

Due to rain, there was no activity with the big machines today but they're still parked out here raring to go.  We shall see.

Over and out from the lane ^j^

Tuesday, May 21, 2019

not meant to blog

Mysteriously overnight I lost my DSL connection so I had some quality time with tech support this morning.  Fine, I'll just hot spot.  I hit some wrong key that was striking through everything so I had to log out and back in to get rid of that.  Tech support said there is indeed a problem with my line.  It may or may not have something to do with all the road scraping going on.  They have doubled the size of the lane which is, as Martha would say "A good thing."  I'm assuming tar and chip will come next.  There has barely been room for two cars to pass each other much less a tractor rig.  

I'm behind on the news but sounds like Kelly Ripa is leaving the show which I hate because I really like she and Ryan together.  Not that I get to watch it anymore, but......

I still have piles but you can navigate now and it's somewhat in order.  I'm making piles for everybody in the family to share the joy.  They're gonna' hate me for that but I've had this stuff for a loooooong time.  I'll be having a sale and what doesn't go will be put on Etsy.  There is a mountain of clothes and shoes to be loaded into the Camry for transport to Aspell.  Really good stuff too!

There's a lot of rage going around about the abortion bans.  What I'm seeing is that instead of seeking solutions to prevent pregnancy, conservatives are getting hysterical about when life begins.  My challenge to you is to quit your judging and look for ways to be pro-active on the issue.  This is about a woman's right to make choices regarding her own body.  Not the government's choice but her own.  

Somehow I have missed PTT with Kristen today.  Either she's sick or broadcasting late.  Either way, we'll catch up.  Trae Crowder got off of GoT and back to politics which is what I like.  I've not watched one episode of the show so I don't get it.  I finished up season 2 of Handmaid's Tale yesterday in preparation for new stuff.  You forget how things end sometimes even though you've watched it.  

Make America peaceful again.  That's my mantra.  Pay it forward like that rich dude who paid off the student loans at Morehouse.  I'm still on the mailing list for my alma mater University of Tennessee HSC in Memphis.  I particularly loved the story about the IT guy who is graduating in the MLS class of 2019. Those dual talents will serve him and the community well.

Unlike many Dems, I'm not having a hissy fit to impeach Trump.  I'd rather see the state of New York lock him up and seize his assets.  That would be justice.

Happy a wonderful day and play nice even when others don't.  The next right thing is always what's up.

Peace ~


Monday, May 20, 2019


You know the old saying that you have to make a mess to clean one up?  Lorna and I worked hard ALL day going through my two front rooms and making order out of chaos.  She's a master at it and I needed to be pushed.  If it was broken, it got pitched.  There's a glass box and a pile to be burned sacredly.  We saged all the rooms got good measure.  That living room has the most beautiful view and it hasn't been usable for years.  Now I have a place to meditate.  There are still mountains of photo albums to go through but at least they're organized.  Baby steps.

The county road department showed up early this morning with a caravan to scrape the lane.  There were five vehicles at first count.  They've been at it all day and I'm assuming tar and chip will come next.  Johnny and Billy were all prepared to help me clear out the metal stuff in the yard but they couldn't get through.  

Lorna brought me a piece of quartz from her collection and a shell to burn sage in.  I'm going to sleep with the quartz by my bed for the full moon.  It was gorgeous last night.  

Stay happy, healthy and humble. Love ya....mean it ^j^

Sunday, May 19, 2019

resting evil face

High five to Colin Jost for coining that term.  And also for his empowering hilarious interview with Leslie Jones.  I will seriously miss that show this summer but luckily there are many more seasons to revisit.  Plus Handmaid's Tale is coming.  I've watched Dead to Me twice.  It's a must see.

I went to Lowe's and spent the grocery money on a pint of chalk paint for the dressing table in a beautiful muted coral shade.  I look for colors now that make me happy.  Life is short.

No news here except more rain and the squash is up.  There are more than likely a lot of snakes out there so I step carefully.  I know they're nice and all but they creep me out.

Watch your step ~